Summer is high season for heartbreak, and I can't quite say why that is. It could be the carefree feel of the season that makes us long for freedom. It could be the steady approach of September: new plans, new opportunities, and new beginnings. Either way, summer always seems to be the season for a breakup. If you are concerned about your relationship, take heed. Here are 10 potential signs that you might be gearing up for the dreaded summer breakup.
Mismatched Interests
In the winter, it's easy to share the same interests (Is it safe to say? Yup, I think so: Netflix, Netflix, and Netflix). When summer rolls around, activities are endless, but it's not always "black and white." He may be into the great outdoors and team sports. However, you crave a pitcher of sangria and a relaxing evening on the city's hippest terrace. Perhaps your interests are no longer lining-up. Is it time to say "bye bye" before July rolls around?
Wedding Season Woes
It might be breakup season, but it's also wedding season! Engaged couples tend to tie the knot when the sun is shining. If your friends are getting married and you need a date, that potentially awkward question might be looming. If you are seeing someone who is wary about being your date (or, bringing you as a date to a wedding), then your relationship might not be as serious as you thought.
Crushing
Let's be honest: people look damn good in the summer. "Side-crushes" and summer flings are what this season's all about, right?! Whether it's a colleague, the cute guy at the bar, or a friend-of-a-friend, you might find yourself infatuated with their smile and charm. Feeling guilty about it? It might be time to reassess your current relationship status!
“I” Not “We”
If you’re finding yourself speaking as a completely independent unit, it may be because you’re not seeing a future with your current partner. If questions like, “What are your plans for the long weekend?” and “What are you up to in the fall?” are all answered with only "me" in-mind, you might have to take a break!
Friend or Foe
Summer's the time to make new friends and acquaintances. If you’re noticing that you’re forming a lot of relationships that don’t include your partner, this could cause some tension. It’s totally fine to have your own friends, but think on things if you see that you're doing more and more separately (especially if you prefer to spend time with your new clique).
Not Your First Call
When something amazing, horrible, exciting, funny, or big happens in your life, who’s your first call? If your partner is far down on your phone tree, this is a problem. You should want them to share those important moments with you. Summer can get really busy for some of us, but if you're losing touch with your main squeeze, it may be time to re-evaluate your relationship.
Those Little Things
Do they leave clothes on the floor? Snore? Chew with their mouth open? If you find yourself nitpicking at the little things, then it may be a sign that you're just not that into them. Summer is here and the sun's out: don't let your un-fit relationship hold you back.
Summer Getaway
Are you constantly out of town on summer weekends? Your social calendar is bursting at the seams but somehow, your partner isn't included in most of your plans. It's time to re-think and reflect if your relationship is still right for you.
"What-If?"
"What if that guy at work finally talks to me?" "What if I meet someone on that camping trip next weekend?" Are you constantly daydreaming of the "what-if's?" This may be because of your doubt in your current relationship status.
September's Approach
This past school-year may have been fantastic for your budding relationship. However, where do you two see yourselves come September? Are either one of you hesitant in talking about the future? Will you be attending different schools? Will you be moving to different cities once autumn rolls around? Although it's tough, having that conversation is vital in any relationship. If the future's looking a little blurry for you two, then this summer may be the right time to end things.
So, tell me: are summers for breakups and hook-ups? Let's talk about it in the comments below!
